It is very typical for them to act "normal" around others and yet, be so out of character w/the lbs. Eventually, they will not be able to maintain the mask of being "normal" around others and that's when the outside world will get a glimpse of what you've been dealing w. The outside world will begin to see a bit of the anger, paranoia, the forgetfulness, tardiness, and the childish behavior. They will begin to wonder what is wrong w/the mlcer. Unfortunately, you will have already been an active player in this world of madness. The best thing you can do is say nothing of the behavior to others, for they will think it's you. Allow the mlcer to hang herself/himself w/the behavior.
Yes, it's very wierd to be on the receiving end of this behavior. Keep detaching and do not allow the words of the mlcer to hurt you, for they are projecting their thoughts/feelings and hurts on to you at this time. This is all about them, not you.
