i just wanted to post as someone who has been there and cheated on their spouse. i know from experience that there may have not been any reasons. i had an A a few years ago. the reason that i did it: peer pressure. wanted to be more like the guys that i was hanging out with. my W was a wonderful woman. she was pregnant. i was stupid. very stupid. if i only knew then what i know now. of course, most of those who live by the sword, die by the sword. this past year, my W had an affair. the pain that i felt from it was overwhelming even though i had done it a few years earlier.
me2, you mention that you have grown closer to God since all of this has happened. quit focusing on the A and focus on complete and total forgiveness. you need to trust in the Lord to heal you and your H.
