As I recall the issues with your wife being gone were that there was a terrible financial situation that made it all but impossible for the two of you to live separately, right?
So if she is REALLY home just because there was absolutely no way to make it work financially apart, you are on extremely shaky ground here.
She is not here for you at all then.
But you do have an opportunity all the same.
To make the most of this opportunity, it seems to me you are going to have to go back my friend, WAY back. Back to the days when you were first meeting each other, where you discovered that you liked her and wanted to capture her attention. Those days where you were kind and loving and selfless in her presence, because you knew those were the things that she would find attractive and want to be around.
Sex? Well maybe I'm just being a little old school here, but as I recall, sex came WELL after the relationship was formed. Not before.
She is NOT your wife anymore. Despite what the law might say, and despite what you might feel in your heart.
You are co-habitating. That's it my friend. The sooner you accept that and begin living that way, the better off you will be both mentally and emotionally.
Be her friend. Show her kindness and compassion. Treat her with respect and consideration. Show her that this is NOT all about YOU and what YOU want. In fact, show her that this is all about HER as far as you are concerned.
You are back at square one. Can you handle that?
And the truth is, it's not really even square one, because she already does not trust that you really want anything more than your wife back. You've got some rebuilding to do first.
But it IS an amazing opportunity....
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
