I'll try to crunch this... Had it all arranged to go get xw in SC on the 19th. Oh did things change. She ended up in a verbal and physical altercation with om and got injured. Her girlfriend called the police and he got arrested. In the middle of all this she called me and said "Let's Roll". I was already on the way. We loaded as much as we could in 2 vehicles and a trailer and headed back. She is now living in the spare bedroom and things are strange to say the least.
She has seen an IC twice already and going back for more. Spends most of the time out with her "friends" but has taken on many of the household chores when she is here. I do not pry into her life or ask her where she is or what she is doing. I do try and include her in my life which of course she is not really anywhere near ready for. She has been very honest with me about her feelings for her other husband which she admits she still loves him and is addicted to him. She has spent the last few days finding many other women who had relationships with her husband in the past and discovered the horror stories that have repeated themselves many times of physical and mental abuse.
In the mean time I try and keep up my PMA which is very difficult to do when the person you love still admits to being in love with an abuser.
She calls in and tells me where she is and who she is with when she is out. Prefaces the conversation by saying "I don't know why I am doing this but felt the need to." I just say thank you for letting me know your alright and it's always good for someone to know where you are.
We were going to church together this morning but it's 8:10 and she is still in bed. I am not going to be her watchdog and wake her up. I made enough noise out here to wake the dead and still haven't seen her. She accepted my invitation to the sportsmans show today which we were going to after church, who knows about that... I'm going with or without her. I need a little diversion to shift the focus for a while.
So if you thought the road with them gone was difficult, think again. The real work begins when they get back. I'm not complaining by the way, "Just the facts mam, just the facts."
First step back has been taken ! Many, many more to go......
DavidA
You vote with your feet. Divorce final 12/24/2004 I Give Up !
