LAN, I find it hard to believe that she's happy without sex. She's become an asexual person? It certainly is not fair of her to expect that you live in an asexual M.
How is your R outside of the sexual arena? It sounds like it is platonic.
Do you plan to accept this situation, or propose an ultimatum at some point?
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
