Oldest D has NO desire to go to see her mother. She is like me, If she wants to see them, she needs to come up here to see them.
Latest chapter in this saga. SIL is coming in for a week to spend time with Mother. She wants to take MY girls to Chicago for the day along with other SIL and BIL. Grandma is also going, This makes my girls think twice about going. They do not trust grandma, as she is the one who is siding with their mother and challenging my girls into forcing them to side with their mother also. My girls know the truth and have lived it. They are so sick of grandma putting her nose in a place where it doesn't belong.
They have asked me to interveen. Calling my SIL who is on our side and asking her to keep grandma on a short leash. That's the only way they will agree to go. I don't want to get involved. I know whatever I do or say will get twisted and make me look like the bad guy. I know I shouldn't care what they think. But I'm tired of fighting with these people, I just want them to leave us alone and they keep finding ways to keep the drama going. So I suggested that they talk to their aunt and explain to her their concerns and wishes. They of course want tme to do the negotiations, makes it easier on them. I want to but don't want to get involved.
ANy sugestions on how any of you would handle this?
