Well, here we go…I guess even though it is the same old story, it might be wise to get a new perspective outcome.
It began at least 15 years ago when my wife and I slept in separate bedrooms. Her reasons, the kids, the snore, the resentment, and etc…I don’t really know the real reason. Then, the affair (her, not me). Our sex life went down hill after my second child was born almost 17 years ago. She still said that she never like to have sex to begin with. But I recall from one of her letter written to the other man, she was rejuvenated and seemed to enjoy being touched and having sex (even though she admitted of feeling guilty about it.)
It has been 7 years since her affair and our sex life was a thing from the past. When I brought up the subject sex, she got angry and told me to give up on sex. She doesn’t want to be touched, kissed, and hugged, left alone having sex.
She refused to see counselor. She refused to get any help. She doesn’t know what exactly her problem is/was/has been. All she wants is to live peacefully together as a family and take care of our children. She is happy with the way it is without sex. If I want to have sex, it will not be with her. She said she is not part of the “norm” and I should accept whom she is when it comes to sex.
We have not hugged and kissed since then. It is sad, but life goes on. My only way out is to divorce her.
