Jim Conway is the resident expert on MLC. He, with his late wife, wrote the books Men in Midlife Crisis and Women in Midlife Crisis. He has 30 years of research under his belt. His approach combines the physical tools and the spiritual tools, which makes for a more complete package, in my view.
Although I post and listen to other people here, it's mainly for encouragement. My 'plan of attack' concerning my wife's MLC comes straight from Jim. I fight very hard not to deviate from it. Many marriages have been restored where the MLCer has come back and said Jim was 'right on the money.'
Plus, I listen to people who are successful, who have seen positive results. These people have put forth the most effort and are serious about this quest. Some of my posts may have seemed raspy, but it's because it's necessary for people to remain serious and faithful to the process or they will get pulled off course and fail. I don't want to see another divorce.
Please consider logging on to Jim's chat room and getting on the email list. There is great support and encouragement there, plus practical advice on how to deal with your H.
Also, consider some of the marriage ministries, if you are so disposed. http://www.rejoiceministries.org and http://www.covenantkeepersinc.org are two that I believe in. Covenant Keepers actually has a local weekly meeting. It's helpful to be with real people in this crisis rather than just on line.
I'm at denkogetsu@msn.com. If you will email me, I can put you in touch with the person who administers the midlife email list. It's very helpful and encouraging.
This board, as good as it is, has its limitations.
Much Love,
David
The fires of true love can never be quenched, because the source of its flame is God Himself! - Shulamith
