Go to the Byron Katie website and do some of her exercises... examine your thoughts: is this true? can you absolutely know this is true? how do you behave when you believe this thought? how do you treat the other person when you believe this thought? who would you be without this thought? And most importantly... turn it around.
You read "I Need Your Love," didn't you? Pull it out again. I've been immersing myself in her stuff for the last couple of weeks, and it's really turned me around.
The advice you gave Chrome is good... but instead of stopping your thoughts, or even just observing them and letting them go (that can be very difficult), what Katie does (as you know) is have you EXAMINE your thoughts and see if they are really true. And even if they ARE true: how do you feel, think, live your life, and treat others if you BELIEVE them. That's Buddhism where the rubber meets the road (Mrs. Hairdog!!). Unexamined beliefs cause us a lot of misery. Katie gives a concrete method for putting Buddhism into practice (rather than just sitting and watching our thoughts... she takes it a step further). She takes it out of the mental realm into the experiential realm.
This accident could be a major wakeup call for you, karen. Don't turn it into a reason (excuse) to kick yourself around the block and diss all the feelings you've been having. Stop scolding yourself. ["I was totally wrong about my h." "Is that true? Can you absolutely know that is true?"] Just examine your beliefs/thoughts and ask yourself: what is my interior life like when I believe these thoughts (and the fact is that it's hard to be absolutely positively sure about ANY of our thoughts and conclusions, but we ACT and LIVE as though we can be sure).
As Katie says, the reason for "loving what is" is because to do otherwise HURTS.
I would urge you to download the audio version of "Loving What Is"-- the dialogues on there are Katie's own voice and actual clients... the effect is pretty stunning. I had already read the book, but the audio version went straight to some primitive part of my brain and kicked me to a new level.
