LAN,
It looks like it's been several years since you last posted. Sleeping in separate bedrooms doesn't rule-out that you can be Piecing (IMO). Certainly, you must have some positives to report about your R. You're still under the same roof! Lack of progress in one or more areas, doesn't mean lack of progress in the R.

Maybe you can give us a review of your situation.

CL

CL 53 W 54
M 20 yrs.
03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL
10-14' Piecing

"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."

----Tao Te Ching