URGENT! OW had an abortion, H miserable

[ourcrisis]

Linda,
I have no control over if and how he comforts her. I can only hope that he does not use "sleeping with her" as a comfort tool. But I made it clear that if EA goes back to PA, he is out. He knows it. And I doubt he will want another pregnancy. So I will just have to be his rock for now so he can be strong.

For some reason these MLC men can be so smart in all other aspects yet when it comes to b/c they just become complete idiots. I just came out and told him last month that "DO NOT EVER TRUST A WOMAN ON BIRTH CONTROL. YOU HAVE TO DO IT YOURSELF". He laughed it off. (It was too late anyway, but). I think you need to have that ONE talk. Emphasize it with a written note if needed, at the same time of the talk. But my advice is just do it ONLY ONCE, but VERY SERIOUSLY. After that, it's up to him whether to take it or not. You cannot say it again because he will be resentful. I know there should not be talk about R with OW much, but this is an important issue regarding his health and possbily a life. He should be made aware. good luck.