Muddle, you're back! Congratulations on the gains you have made. Yes, you have made gains. You and your W are able to live together "civilly", work together at raising your son, are still going to MC, and you mention no abusive incidents. That is progress. All this and you've managed to keep your self respect too! That's awesome! But, you sound like you are pondering the next move? Maybe it's a good time to look at what's going right and ask yourself "why is it going right". What are you doing that has resulted in the improvements here? Look at when you and your W are getting along best, what is happening? What can you do to get more of those things going? What have you been doing to keep yourself where you are rather than backsliding which would be so easy to do. Is there any small thing you could do that might help to move to where you want to be even just a tiny bit? Small victories can create bigger ones. Keep your eye on small gains versus the bigger prize. These are my thoughts for you today. You sound great!
