I am a sh*thead for all the whining I do about not getting the attention and sex I want.
Karen-- STOP THAT! Those two issues are NOT related.
What you went through was traumatic. Okay, so the sun was in your eyes-- there was no malice involved. The cop said there have been lots of accidents there. Please stop calling yourself names. Forgive yourself, forgive yourself, forgive yourself. Let yourself be scared, relieved, angry, grateful--- just stop calling yourself names, okay? Don't abandon yourself because of this... be kind to you and the baby and your sweet daughter. (Your H definitely gets a medal for his attitude.)
AND you still deserve to want sex and attention. This incident does not negate that, although it may give you some perspective.