I talked with her this morning and I know that she is a good girl and she did affirm to me (without me asking) that she never cheated on me.
Well, I would brace yourself anyway. My instinct is that the adulterous WAS can put on a good acting face and tell all sorts of lies. They do this to protect themselves from the guilt they might feel and from the righteous position that they're sparing the LBS the pain by not telling the truth.
Let me play devil's advocate for a minute? Isn't it odd that she brought it up to deny an A, with no encouragement from you?
Not saying she is/did have an A by a long shot, just that you probably should prepare for that as a possibility.
but she said that I just didn't love her like a husband should have and that I was selfish.
Good thing to note, in the event that you get a chance to fix this M, or if not, for the next one.
{edited} I not trying to blame my childhood for who I am today but it had an impact.
This is a good piece of self-reflection. Let me copy something I posted over on tgh's thread:
It's not exactly your fault that you're the way you are. It's the genetics, the upbringing, the environment, the learning from your experience that has made you the way you are today. Chances are, you didn't learn the skills required to deal w/ life/relationships/whatever....
So, it's not your fault that you're the way you are.
However, if you're still the same ten years from now.....
People can change, including you. But you have to want to.
Some of that is specific to her, but I know at a more general level it applies to all of us, myself included.
Take care,
S_O_T_S aka: Stoic_On_The_Surface
I can't quite get there cause my heart's forsaken me - KT Tunstall
