You really have a lot of good things going on here. Honest you do, and right now your thinking gee Jack, really? Cause I think that you just said that getting kicked in the privates over and over is a good thing.
No, it sucks. It hurts...blah blah blah.
She wants you around. Holy Crow! This is good.
All the things she wants to do with you are 'friend' things. OK I am not as wise as people woul dmake me out to be. I do not know everything. That being said man, You got this chance to be her friend, and really be her friend which is the building block for real relationships. Grab it man.
Is it a Test? F yeah it is! Pass it.
OM...loser right? Absolute loser, don't compare yourself to him, you'll go bat crap crazy...trust me. He is more of a loser than your wife thinks she is right now, and she needs that. He is crazier than her...he is a f-ing symptom. Sorry dude it sucks and I am telling you as someone who has been there.
You can draw the line somewhere, set a boundary. Like sleeping with her, say sorry, I know we aren't 'sleeping' together but I am not 'sleeping' with my friend who is sleeping with someone else.
Dude as hard as this is, and man your path is hard. Proximety can suck, but you have an amazing opportunity here.
Do it right, become her friend be there, let her see your self respect as well.
See the OM for exactly what he is a POS, and nothing more than something to make her feel better, she doesn't love him, that simple.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
