Wait a second, why are you living outside your own home?
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I feel taken advantage, she is the one who thinks she has found a better mate.
You feel taken advantage of because you are allowing her to do so. If it's the marital home, why are you allowing her to live there and you not? Why are you facilitating her activity? You should be at home and you should not allow yourself to do anything for her that you feel taken advantage of for. Respect yourself enough to say NO. Appeasing her is not going to get her back, and the resentment you are creating because you are giving with expectations that aren't being met is going to further poison the relationship.
If you don't respect yourself enough to say no when you don't want to do or agree to something, how can you expect your W to do so? You need to make clear for your sake and your W's where your boundaries are. You can't blame her for taking advantage of you when she takes something you gave her. Don't give unless you mean it.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
