From reading what you described it sounds to me like your H is in MLC mode right now. I would also have to say this is not piecing, and in order to truly start piecing it takes both S's to want to try to work on the M. We understand your anger in having your H run around free like he's doing. It is not right, and the finances need to be addressed for the sake of your kids. He cannot treat you like a doormat, but if you want to save your M, you need a good strategy - and you need to start by detaching first and foremost. Your H basically needs to grow up, and it seems he wants to have his cake and eat it too.
I would recommend that you copy and paste your posts over in the MLC thread since this is what seems to be going on with your H. You will find more "power DB'ers" to help you out as well.
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
