Haven't checked the bb for a few weeks and just caught up w/ your latest. Sorry to see that it did turn out to be the "calm before the storm" that you speculated it might be a while back.
Don't know if you'll see this for a while if you're taking a break, FWIW the e-mail I got from my H about the D was similarly cold, but in a later e-mail he noted that it's sad for him too. I guess he just didn't want to go there generally. About the apologies, don't expect them from someone who believes what he's doing is justified. Just tell yourself whatever and forget about that.