He cannot get over the OW help us...

[Heartbroken]

Thanks! For the reply. I have read all of Dr. Laura's and many many others. I have made major strides in getting myself to what I needed to become (for me) and he what he would like me to be, this only hurts him because he knows how much I am working on it and can change and I think he feels it's to late for him (feeling wise)to love me again. He is so blinded by the OW emotions - he claims he has had zero contact in 6 wks and yet he pines away for her.

I just got to convince my heart I cannot change his feelings only he can do that. He did say this morning that he may consider separating vs. outright divorce. He also is hearing what I am saying about counseling - he is considering it at least vs. absolute 'no' last week. Baby steps!!!