Can my marriage be saved?

[Rosy_Times]

yes, you do have to accept it but realize that only time and patience will change things, whether you get back together or not. Read everything you can get your hands on about MLC, Affairs, etc. but most importantly, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF! DO THINGS YOU'VE ALWAYS WANTED TO DO! Have you felt unhappy too for some reason? It may take months to figure out why. I'm on week five and I still can't figure it out; the lightbulb hasn't come on yet but hopefully soon! Detach yourself from him. If he is going to be with OW, then he will and you can't control it. The first thing I did was I had to realize that I can't control his feelings or his actions right now and so you have to come to those terms in order to find some peace for you not to go crazy in the meantime. Sending you a great big HUG! This is going to be quite the rollercoaster ride but at my 5 weeks in, it does get better I can assure you.