Hi Grace - I know that one of the reasons my H is seeing the counselor is how to handle the telling me and daughter and everyone else we know he wants out. He is usually very honorable and has a concious - and feels guilty when he knows he isnt doing the right thing - that is part of his internal struggle now, I suspect.
He is also re-writing history in terms of how he sees me and out marriage. While it is true I let him take a back seat to our child, my demanding job, my friends - you name it - I think part of it was cause I believed he woud always be there for me - surprise surprise !
Anyway I have regrets that I didnt see the signs sooner - I was too busy trying to balance all the balls in the air - and I refuse to beat myself up too hard
He is saying that too much has happened and he cant find those feelings for me anymore. when our marriage counselor asked him if he could forgive me - he said he didnt think he could - I was thinking - forgive what exactly ? he blames me for everything wrong in his life
anyway - thanks for your support. I am going to try to enjoy this weekend buoyed by the suupotr that you all have shown !
Last edited by hannahsmom; 02/09/0703:10 PM.
me - 47 H - 50 /49 when bomb happened Daughter 17 years old married 21 years together 26 years Bomb August 06 H still at home 'I love you but not in love with you'
