Hey Guys Am doing OK.. have accepted and want D. Have let go of H. Still some pain...but its time to move on for now. The depth of the lies and betrayal and spending are starting to sink in....and this is the tip of the iceberg. I have asked him to stay away accept for his financial obligations to us. maybe in 2 or 3 three years if he exits the fog......who knows?
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
You sound good. You sound like you have definetly let H go. And your right, who knows what will happen in a few years. He may be a totally different person then. It will be up to you whether you want him back.
But I will stay here and offer moral support and i will still have bad days
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
at least now i can start grieving.....that place of stasis was cruel to say the least
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
I'm sorry your marriage is ending, but I am glad you are in a strong place. I expect that you will waiver, going up and down. I just read that you are from Maine too. I am from the Portland area. Maybe we should meet up for a cup of coffee sometime if you are in this area.
kris I am about an hour out of Portland ...waterford...would love to.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
waiver is a good way to put it but have to press on. He wants out...he can have out...then when i am gone when he thought with me gone he would be happy....uh oh....still not happy gee it wasnt W after all. He and 25 yr old OW can press on towards their gloomy ending which will come.....just a matter of time.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
