Dang it, COG, that description ROCKS, and I am one of the minority women who wants sex 24/7, M to an H who withheld, and still does post-A. A special level of painful rejection, yes? And you nailed it. Especially, to me, about how it should be like brushing your teeth. NOT tied in to your emotional temper tantrums, so to speak.
The lack of, feeds on lack of. The sharing of, would feed on the sharing of. Oh, to jump from the bad cycle to the good one...
Could I have your permission to share that? I would LOVE to use your description in my blog (http://instepford.blogspot.com) credited to an "anonymous wise man", of course. You'd be in good company (GH, TL, AmyC) are all quoted there too.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3