You will find amazing people on this board!!! We all know what you are going through, some longer some shorter periods of time.
You seem to have a handle on it right now and that is terrific. Read and learn from others here is your best bet.
The others have given you alot of good advice already. Patience and time is the key here. You will notice that there is a MLC pattern but each S goes through it differently. Just work on you and take care of you and your D right now. Let your h work on himself.
