I can already see that yo are all wonderful = thank you all for the warm welcome -
My H just called to tell me his appointment is done and he likes the counselor - he says " I think I am doing the right thing going to talk to someone '
I wasnt sure what to say - so I said - that is good - I hope you get out of it what you need
I found it odd that he called - but I am encouraged - I try not to hang my hopes on every glimmer of something good because I just fall so low when something not good happens Can you tell I have been reading all your posts these past few months - you have all taught me stuff already
HMom
HMom, You did very well. Good for you. I'm so glad he is in counseling and found someone to talk to. You asked about counseling and if any of our spouses went alone. Mine did, right after the bomb. He would not go to "marriage" counseling but because I was seeing a counselor for myself, he decided to go to one, too. He went twice. Then he stopped going but lied to me about it. I am not saying your H would do this; just telling you that you might want to realize this can take a long time, this crisis. If you've been reading the boards you already know that. I really hope you stay with us and post. We'll do what we can to help, promise. I would say his age and physical changes are definitely playing a role in this. I'm very sorry for your pain but you will be ok. I'll check back. Hope
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
