Hiya Sweetie

I am glad you posted

Please ignore my crazy threads. We all get silly here sometimes.

Mamma, I have to say, I am very very impressed.

This is all new and fresh.

I know the pain is raw.

I know you want the answer.

The answer on how to get your husband back, to being the man he was.

I don't know that answer

but I do know that, you are going to be fine.

I see your strength already.

My first post I was a mess.

Your first post you sound like a pro.


Ok!

At first you will be overwhelmed with the information

Go slow honey.

Take your time to read things thru.

You are going to become a totally different person.

Your heart and your gut are gonna tell you one thing, and now you are going to train your brain to do the opposite.

You will see

you will get it.

You don't want to give him space, you want to hang on.

Of course you do, i mean it is only natural.

Now you are going to do the un natural.

and let me tell you, it takes time to get it down.

You are not going to beg.

You are not going to cry in front of him

When you beg, he will go away farther

Why? he feels guilty .

The guiltier he feels the more he wants out.

So.

you are going to become the best actress ever.

Yes at first it is acting. Then it will become you.

I already know you are strong. You have a 16 year old daughter.

That smile he fell in love with over 20 years ago, guess what, you are going to bring it back.

That humming you used to do around the house, when you were cleaning, guess what? you are going to bring it back.

This is not for him my love,

this is all for you.

This is going to raise your self esteem.

I hope you read all the threads on the top of the board.

if you have the Divorce Remedy book, read it, and don't let him see that you are reading it.

Don't let him see that you are loooking for info on Mid life crisis or things like this.

Most importantly, and the most painful, thing is

your husband is now gone.

yup his body is there,

but his soul and his brain have been captured by aliens.

I am sure the alients will keep his brain alive, and his soul alive, until they return it.

I will tell you this.

if you pray dear heart

Pray a little harder.

You are going to need all the spiritual strenght you can muster up.

Try to get some sleep ok!

Have fun with your D.

Take care of you.

Vent here, complain here.

Join in our stupid thread once in a while, they are just for a laugh anyway.

You will get to know each of us.,

We will all help.

We are a great bunch

I would be lost with out them.

Welcome aboard

“Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you.”