thank you for your support. I feel so much better for someone to validate my doubts as not being a bad person.
I thought about it and yes, I probably cannot point out the doubt that she may be lying. Hopefully I can sneak in a remark or two at the appropicate moments to raise his awareness/doubts. Funny I did point out to h that eventhough he did ask her to have the abortion, it was also her choice. A woman cannot be forced into it unless she also chose to do so. After all, she's a 34 yr old professional, not a 17 yr old airhead. I wonder how much of my talk sink into h's head. Right now he is just so guilty. On the other hand, he did tell me that he asked her to have the abortion (which is in general against his values), because he thought about our kids and did not want another child at this time to complicate matters. Right before last week, as far as I could tell, he was working on cutting ties with her. So his decision for her to abort is inline with his feelings to work on our relationship. May be this is what trigger her to tell him about the (real or not) pregnancy.
At this point I cannot do much to stop him from seeing her. He feels he needs to support her through this recovery period (in a sense, I feel that he is partly responsible to also). I am just going to continue to be lovely to him so he won't fall into her arms so readily.
On a side note, I gave him a VERY STRONG WARNING about 1-2 months ago (when the pregnancy already happened, if it did) about "never trust a woman on birth control". It is just a bit funny to see this happening now. So much like a soap opera.
M 38, H 38, two sons Met 20 years ago Married 13 years Bomb: Oct, 2006 DB: Started in Dec, 2006 H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007 H back home and piecing?
