Honey, sorry you find yourself here, but I am so glad you finally got up the nerve to post.
We are all crazy but we will not bite.
We will love and support you, hold your hand.
We have all been where you are.
What other things are going on? Tell us more about your situation.
For now, the best thing you can do is read and learn, read the resources at the top of the thread.
You have done the right things, going into counseling, getting one for yourself. His getting his own is also very good, and it's a positive that the recommendation came from your MC.
Let him do his work, leave it alone.
That frees you up to work on you.
Detach, get a life, find things to do for you, so that you are not so caught up in this drama that has overtaken your life.
Do things that make you happy, give you confidence.
You will be fine. No matter what. Believe that.
So many of these things about your situation are positives.
Just hang with us, come here when you need to vent, or when you are tempted to get in his space.
