I'm new here and need help

[hannahsmom]

I have been lurking on these boards since September and only tonight did I get the nerve to post
My story - on vacation (8/06)with the family ( husband and 16 year old daughter) My husband was irritable, moodly, sullen and snapping at me at every turn. I finally turn to him in front of my daughter on the subway and say - are you ok - what is wrong with you? Later that evening we take a walk away from the kiddo and he drops the bomb - I dont love you anymore - I dont want to be married, I am interestd in seeing someone else etc etc
he is 49
I am 46
daughter 16
years married 21
years together 26
After a few days of ignoring what he said - we talked again and I went into begging mode - dont blow up our family, please see a counselor with me etc etc
We saw a Marriage counselor who happens to be familiar with DBing ( a coincidence but I took it as a sign)
my husband is confused and doesnt know what he wants - he is still living here - treats me like his roomate - says he is only staying for kid and no money to leave
he is now going to counseling on his own starting tonight - our MC recommended someone
I have been trying to work on myself - I struggle everyday with this - I feel so lonely in my own home
has anyone else had same type situation where MLC spouse sought counseling on their own - I also see a therapist since thsi all happened
I want to badly to know what is being said in that therapy session - but I know I have to give him his space - any advice anyone ?
Thank you all