I've done the counselling thing over and over and all it's doing for me now is putting a big dent in my bank balance. This BB generally helps more and is free!
Yes this is the 2nd time my H has left. Yes we did go to counselling as a couple when he came home. I insisted on it but I made him do the booking etc. I thought we had sorted out our issues. WE said we had begun to sort things out BUT what I didn't know then was that even then he was lying. Even then there were OW that I didn't know about even though I asked him outright in front of the C if there had been others I didn't know about. When he first came home before he admitted it was only for the kids and I already knew this but after several counselling sessions he told me during one of them that he had realised that he did love me and he did want to work things out. One thing he was not prepared to do however was dedicate less time to his beloved karate. At the time he did this 3 nights a week so what with activities the kids did it didn't leave much time for couple time. Then he got an injury which meant for months he couldn't even teach let alone go along to classes as a student. I believe this is when his MLC really took hold b/c he became so depressed about it.
He met his current love of his life through the karate club. At first he led me to believe that she was as experienced as him but it turns out she is actually only a very low rank.
Yes you are right, I am extremely depressed but not with my H but at all the things S14 is putting me through.
So yes I need help. Whether people can give it or are prepared to do so remains to be seen.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
