Muddle, one of the things I wonder about is how do you decide which issue is to be confronted (I hate that word but...) For example, last night she came up from the basement and said "Is this the most I can expect with those magazines?" I had put some old magazines I've had for years into bags and was going to recycle them but the bins were full so I put them back in the basement until next pick up. I responded "what do you mean?" and she said "Is this all I can expect, that they will be in bags?" This was with a somewhat unpleasant, frustrated tone. I explained to her my plan and why they were there. She responded "well, if they don't go out can you at least put themin boxes, seeing your magazines in bags drives me crazy" I said "Sure, but they will be going". Would this be a time to say "I would appreciate if you would use a different tone with me" or do I just brush it off as just another one of her little mood thingies? How many of those do you handle in the course of a night before confronting? You see, I tell this boring little diddy because this is what I face frequently. If I say, "Is everything OK" I get a verbal swat, so I don't. If I confront each time I'm being a prick, constantly harping on her every word. So any thoughts from you, or others, would be helpful. I want a peaceful house but one that values respect as well.
