So many problems...

[Jack_Three_Beans]

IM,

Glad that you are GALing.

I've been setting aside time to appreciate my music collection, and have taken up listening to some new things.

Not the depressing stuff ok man? No Hal Ketchum Past the Point of Rescue. No Linkin Park Numb...none of that stuff ok? Something fun Harvey Danger - Flagpole Sitta ... it is a great song for people in our sitch. "I'm not sick, but I'm not well!" heh.

Dinner with W nearly every day, if that counts (it's a dangerous sort of thing regarding detachment).

This is pretty good for you man. Was this your idea or hers? Or mutual? Detaching is just emotionally detaching, up to you if you can or not. But wow, good for you guys...ok if this is your idea....I'd suggest finding out if she likes doing this.

But so far the things I've seen that have helped get me closer to my W have been more along the lines of developing personal qualities that weren't so apparent before. Listening well, for one.

Told you that your are smart.

Your "betterment" is your relational betterment.

Besides physical or spiritual/mental...what other type is there?

the info I'm getting from the W is confusing indeed.
So I keep going back to it, as if to digest it.

Would you digest bull sh*t, literally or figuratively? I mean you could but you won't get anything out of it.

Sad to say at the beginning and most of the journey for them they are so f-ed up in the head it doesn't matter what they say. Hey they might say something insightful, but you have to shift through all the sand to find it, and how are you going to know? Trying to save you some hurt here man.

You'll be fine IM.

Comes a time when thinking too much hurts more than helps. Active imaginations and all that, not good either.