I totally understand where you are coming from about the tee shirt! In my case it is a pair of shoes. I know a lot of people will think this silly and maybe even childish but I simply can't help the way I feel. In early Dec. 2000 he came home from a "golf" trip (of course at the time I didn't know about "her"). He had this pair of really nice dress loafers and told me he was "somewhere and they had them on sale for a great price". I didn't think too much about them. Then in March 2001 when I discovered the cheating and read the letters she sent him and realized that the trip when he bought the shoes was,according to her, their Christmas together because she knew he wouldn't be able to visit her at Christmas time. So I got it in my head that she had bought them for him as a Christmas gift. I was acting "crazy" and everytime he wore them I got unhappy and when he would take them off I would throw them in the closet where he had to get down and hunt for them whenever he wanted to wear them. He asked me about it and I told him how I felt about his wearing them. He told me that she didn't buy them nor was she with him when he bought them. To be honest I don't know if he was being truthful or not seeing as how he had lied about the really important things, I figured he'd have no problem lying about something like that (and maybe he "lied" to try and stop me from being hurt by it). He did stop wearing them whenever we went somewhere (I never asked him to stop wearing them) but he did wear them to work (he said he didn't care if he got them messed up wearing them to work). I continued to toss them in the closet after he'd wear them but would try not to look sad when he did wear them. This went on for a long long time. Finally I noticed that he stopped looking for them. He hasn't worn them in several months now. Maybe I should have believed his story but it was hard at the time. He even told me I was being irrational about the shoes but my mind just wouldn't let it go. I wanted him to understand that every time he put those shoes on it reminded me of where he was and what he had been doing when he got them. Even if he did get them himself,he was there with "her"! When you mentioned the tee shirt it made me think of the shoes. This may seem like a silly,childish or irrational thing to some people but I know that when you have been hurt so badly by the person you love more than anyone or anything,sometimes your mind goes places it wouldn't normally go. I tried to deal with it the best I could. It is strange how certain things can affect you when you have been cheated on,lied to and hurt. While I was typing this I did feel a little nuts but I can't help it...that's just me !! pfroglady