Quote: You need to ask yourself if the things you want to know are things that you'd be better off knowing or something that would just add to your pain if you knew
You are so right... Why need to ask about something you know will cause you pain...?!!... bc of that i never ask nothing about her... I dont know how is her, bc i never seen her and i never seen a picture of her... my curiosity sometimes point me to want to see her, how she is... but is curiosity, i think is only that... About your strategy of the place she is, This christmass we maybe will go to orlando... this means a lot for me, bc last christmass he went with her and her children to orlando... he knows i found out that travel... and never told my childrens about it bc they love too much going to orlando and this will hurt them so much... daddy going alone to the place we love most...!!... So, this travel will be significant to us... for me bc it is like erasing his last hurting moves... for him, bc last time he was there, he wasnt in familly... with the people he loves most...!!... There are some issue i need to tell him i cant see bc hurts my memories... like a tshirt he have that say: Miami (they went together to miami just a month after he left home), a special music i relate with her i dont know why... So he avoid wearing that t shirt in front of me, and avoid to put that music in car when i am with him...!!... but you know what...?... comes a day when i realize that asking him not to wear that shirt or play that music, is to maintain that stupid young girl between us, so some days ago i ask him to put that music and i will not tell him again to not wear that t shirt...!!... Thanks, i know is a healing process... i know that as time pass i will feel better and think less on that episode of our life... i hope my h never repeat an A bc its hurt so much... also i know he cant stand confortable and please having an affair being in home... thats was one of the reasons he need to left home... bc besides our problems, he need to be out just to do the things he feel he wants to do in his MLC... and ones of them, was the A...!!... Thanks again for your answer... and yes, i pray a lot and ask God many many times to help me heal this feelings..
