I was reading your post and it begged me to ask you a question.
First....a little background. My wife and I have been together 18 years and married 11 of those. She left our marriage and our two young children this summer as she was having an EA with an older man she met at the gym. It didn't take long after she left for it to turn to a PA.
She now says that she wants to work on things and I am having a lot of trouble motivating myself to do that. I look at her with disgust more than anything and I find it hard to imagine that I could ever get the same feelings back that I had for her before.
You appear to have gotten over this or maybe you didn't even go through it. If you did how did you manage to get over the anger? How can you look at your mate with love and respect after what they have put you through?
I am not sure if this is only a temporary feeling for me but I honestly have to bite my tonge when she asks me what's wrong...because if I was honest it would derail this whole thing.
