Well if you're sure that he's lying to you about the finances, then I think it would be best to move forward with a financial separation. If it were $100 here or there then no big deal, but $5,000, twice, is not a small amount of money. The financial separation may just be the next natural step in your journey/struggle. Trust me, that process will bring many things to the surface, besides the money. It was definately an eye opening experience for W and I. Made us both rethink our decisions and direction.
Very stressfull process though so prepare yourself for battle. Be prepared to give and let go, but also to stand for what's right and fair. We still have separate bank accounts and I actually like it that way. I hear what your saying about the legal precedent. That's another reason why I think you should move forward with it.
Come at it from a place of peace and acceptance. Be gentle yet stand firm when you need to. Give some to get some. Realize that this is just another phase of the struggle. It does'nt mean the end of your M. This process could possibly open new doors for your M. Stay positive, peaceful, polite, strong, and brave.
God Bless,
COG
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