Good point, Muddle. But I really wasn't upset about the time thing. I recognized that this was maybe me trying to be "caring" and it wasn't necessary. But yes, in my mind I was hearing, "here's one more way you annoy and displease me". There is rarely any gratitude or encouragement from her, just a steady stream of complaints, some subtle and some more blatant. Again, it's often not the complaint it's the delivery! So yes, I let loose this morning...inappropriately. I did strike back. Often her remarks are made out of frustration about things outside of me and I know that, so I try not to respond. It's hard to know where to step in and where to let it go. I can't go through life with letting every little thing work me into a lather but I also can't let her just slice pieces of me off little by little. Maybe just to calmly say "I understand your issue, I will work on it but I would prefer you to bring it up in a more polite manner?" What do you think? Cuz basically it was the friggin tone behind it that got me going, not the content of her complaint. It's also that there is never anything good to balance it. But hey, she doesn't love me, my feelings aren't a priority for her and she's is in ME ME ME mode, so what can I really expect here?
