Yes, I think this is more like what is happening in my relationship too. Only I would definitely say that it is my H's way of getting my attention. My whole way of being is some version of "distracted fantasy land" and my H has been known to say that the thing he hates most is being ignored. If I try to be objective I would say that both things are true. I tend towards being inattentive and he needs too much attention. Being married to him makes me wish I could be a 19th century woman married to a seafaring man. My life feels much easier when he is out of town with his job.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
