Where was the criticism? I can tell you, it was in YOUR mind. She made a statement about what you were doing, and told you how it affected her. She was connecting with you, and you took it as criticism and got defensive and unleashed your pent up anger at her.
You were hurt by the tone of her response to you telling her the time. Did you tell her this? Did you draw her attention, or your own, to your feelings? It seems more like you attacked her back. Acknowledge your feelings in the moment and communicate them when they happen. Otherwise you just look for an excuse to attack her back.
Please don't take this as blame, just notice what you can use to your advantage here. It's much healthier for both of you if you acknowledge your feelings.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
