I'm assuming that was your "ideal world" response and not something you actually consider possible in the "real world."
I was just trying to figure out what my most differentiated, honest response might have been. Actually, I think what my H did in real life was much worse than what I had him say in my scenario. In real life he just avoided having sex with me and when I pinned him down and asked him "Why?" after being rejected when I initiated many times, he told me it was because I was "too fat" and his suggestion for solving the problem was that we should watch porn together. Stupid, stupid, idiot me agreed to this solution because I wasn't honest with myself about how far from a sexually ideal situation it was for me to have sex with a man who was being turned on by looking at other women's bodies.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
