thanks for the 'moment of sanity' post on my thread! It is so helpful when someone else with a less tilted perspective makes an observation on my own silly behaviors!
About your sitch, it does sound like it is time for you to start taking steps to protect yourself financially. I know that means Ls, but sometimes Ls can be the good guys!
I hope you at least take some steps to safeguard some, or all, of the cash in a single account. I too left my money in joint accounts, but H wasn't spending out of one of them at all and I felt safe. Now that your H has pulled his bonus shenanigans, it may be time to assume that things aren't safe for you anymore. JMO, of course.
Thanks again for the pick me up post on my thread!
