I'm curious about something if you don't mind me asking. Do you think your work hours had anything to do with the situation you find yourself in? Did H ever make any comments about it?
I don't mind you asking. When the A were occurring, I was working a three twelve schedule (7am -7pm Friday - Sunday)and attending school during the week. My H was working during the week and attending school at night. I believe my work hours did largely contributed to my sitch. The part that made me feel like he did not care was because he didn't comment on it. There were times I would leave for work on Sat. morning and he would still be gambling with his friends from the night before. His friends would make comments about me working hard and such. He would not. A lot of times I would like to think I could possibly get a hug or massage after working a 12 hour shift, but that is not the case. Or at least someone to talk to on the long drive home (it takes me about 45 min. - 1 hr. one way). But I make it a point not to call when I know he is out. Usually the convo will be short if I do call to let him know I am coming home. Looking back I should have voiced my concerns and desires.
See what happens when you ask a question, I respond by writing a book. Ask away if you dare.
