I've decided to take the "suggestions" at dance class at face value, helpful suggestions. I think she is very proud of her skills at dance and loves to share them by trying to improve me! I've got to relax a little more when I'm on the floor. She wasn't snarky but actually in a pretty good mood. It's just very hard to constantly feel that I'm being "fixed" meaning the way I am isn't good enough! Gee, that might touch a sensitive cord somewhere LOL. If I continue to feel this way after next class I think I will ask her to chill out a bit. If she gets pissed, she gets pissed. Now as for the finances. It's bizarre that here she is talking about us getting a savings plan going to save for trips, house repairs, emergency fund as though we are a "normal" couple planning to spend the rest of our days together. I'm not sure whether I should just go with this and go full tilt into planning mode with her "as if" or say "hold on here, I think we need to split up our finances" Right now I have nothing yet she has money stashed away and growing each pay cheque. On the other hand, if she's willing to work as a team towards joint purchases etc then is that not a good thing? Is it not something we can build on? I tried to do this last year with her and it died a slow death. She wasn't interested, it wasn't a priority to her. Now, she sees it as something important. I guess at any time I can say "time to split the finances" so is there a rush? Any kindly thoughts here anyone?
