I totally hear you; I was in the same situation. While I did work full time, my salary was not anything to brag about and without H's pay I could not survive where I was living. The legal sep. is definitely a way to get yourself away from the debt he is creating. It is such a relief to not be burdened with their spending problems. And at least a legal sep. is not a divorce. In my state it bought me another year before H could file for one anyway. Not that he seemed to want to...but I liked how it was not such an abrupt marital status change, if you will. It gave me time to adjust to "this", and prepare for "that"...should it happen.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
