HW... I think your question is so complex and look forward to reading others resposes,,,, oh yes women loved to feel needed ,,,of course. I think of course there are generalities that could posibly applied and then there are more needs and wants that are more personal. If anyone knows of any good books regarding this subject I do believe it would help HW tremendously (and myself ....)and alot of others here.
HW all I can say to you is you are one STRONG Woman.... my H has left 2 times and it took me for a loop! .... you seem to deal with this soo much I give you sooooooooooo much credit for hanging in there you are stronger than Most. We are all here for you as we all stand for becoming better human beings and hopefully in the process saving our M's as well. All my love and blessings go out to you. God bless.... Ali