my husband is not a good lover

[Neverland]

I have been living with this for many years. After we had been married about 5 years, my husband and I started counseling because he had incurred a fair amount of debt and then lied to me about it. In our counseling the conversation turned to sex. He said he wasn't satisfied with our sex life. I agreed. It has never been very good for me. My thought when we got married was that it would only get better. I was so wrong. It got worse and he got angry. In therapy I tried to tell him that I wasn't getting what I needed. I started with sloppy kissing (I said it more gently than that.) While the conversations helped me find other ways to enjoy being intimate with him he has never gotten past feeling that I don't like having sex with him.

His feelings have completely overwhelmed our marriage. I'm fairly certain at this point that he will never believe anything positive I say about our physicial relationship. I wish I could take everything I said back. At this point we are separated after more years of running up debt, internet sex followed by encounters with a prostitute.

We can't even address his spending issues because he immediately comes back to sex.

I don't have advice to address the situation well but I am painfully aware of the risks involved. I wish you better luck than I have had.

Neverland