Am I piecing? I am sooooo confused

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Hey, something I might know something about ;-)
I too wanted my W to need me and felt that she didn't. She is so independant, self contained, etc. I would love for her to need me. Of course, I don't want a clinging vine or helpless girl; I just want her to want me and need me occasionally.

How would that look? I guess if she discussed her problems and feeling with me, and really shared. I wouldn't have to try to fix them. This is a new revelation to me. Before, I would have said something about having a problem and wanting me to fix it, and then being appreciative. But I've put her in a dilema: I want a strong mate, but I want her to need me. So now I think, I want to know she wants, needs, to share her burdens with me and sometimes asks for help.

I want to be needed. Don't women want that too?

But, HW, your husbands answer about not feeling guilty sometimes about the A because you are so strong smacks a lot like rationalizing (excuses) to me. That's not a good reason.

You know, at one point my wife, unknown to me, was trying to save our M. She became very appreciative and showed her thanks in words and actions. I loved it. I was sacrificing for the family (lots of long hours and lots of travel) and it was really nice for her to notice. Too bad I didn't pick up on all the meanings and too bad I didn't respond the right way. Oh well. Hopefully I'm getting a chance now to make it up. someday.