SP1, Honey, I am sorry if I offended you in any way, BUT you have to stop being afraid. Why are you still so fearful? When he came home did you really get things back on track and actually talk OR were things swept under the rug because you were afraid to make waves? As for your email account, do you use it regularly? Can't you casually just ask for the password and be upbeat? Something is amiss here. Why would NOT asking for your password be a 180? So, whatcha planning on doing for your Husband for Valentines Day? What would REALLY be a 180?
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.