I would definitely like some suggestions on this one too - my H tells me all the time that during the A he thought sometimes very guilty for what he was doing but other times he said to himself that I was strong and could handle it and it wouldn't matter because I didn't need him like OW did - how do I compete with that one?

I have tried to give him examples of how I need him in my life but he keeps telling me how strong and independent I am (which, by the way was the things he loved about me when we got married - go figure!!)

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)