My H says that I do not show him I love him and by that he means physical touch and ML.. while we are intimate he says he does not ever feel me present except for when ... Ive had a few drinks....
Here's how I feel about W not being able to be intimate. I feel like I have a disease, like I'm not good enough for her, like there's something wrong with me, like she does'nt like me or love me, like I'm shackeled and stuck in a cage that I can't get out of. It makes me want to D her, and go find a woman that'll want to have sex with me. A woman that enjoy's a good orgasm, and isn't afraid to show it. You see, one of the biggest turn on's for a guy, is a woman who's turned on. It's not a porno kind of thing, it's a sharing of the love thing. It's a communication that is deep and very hard to describe, but it lets us guys know that we are needed, loved, and appreciated, like a warm piece of fresh baked apple pie. We come away with the satisfaction of knowing that our woman just recieved the fullest of the love we can possibly deliver.
Being refused good sex is the ultimate rejection. It's like a kid pouring his soul into a work of art, or writing beautiful story, and being super excited to show it to his mom, only to find mom uninterested or not even care to see it. Makes you just want to tear it up and throw it away.
Personally, it's the cruelest thing I've ever had to face. I'd much rather have her be rude, ugly, short tempered, air headed, etc. Just about anything but frigid. IMHO, if you want to stay M, and you don't want H to go find OW, then enjoy a nice glass of wine every evening, and then enjoy a good poke from your H! Now that's livin lady!
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I will admit that I try so very hard not to think about anything ( the OW the past and my insecurities) but showing him the great love I have for him and yet I seem to fall short and if you remember he has her name tattoed on his chest,, so I thought I was giving im the best of me and hiding the rest but he clearly feels my guardedness,,,
Well I'm sure I'd feel a little weird seeing OW name on him, but it's just sex OK? He made a dumb mistake with the tatoo. Just enjoy the sex! Cut loose and give that man, and yourself, the sex of a lifetime. Then call my W and tell her how she ought to do the same for her H.
Sex should not get mixed up in personal differences. It should be like brushing your teeth, you do it every day no matter if you're mad or sad or whatever. Don't get it mixed up with all the other confusing emotions that are runnin around. Just have a glass of wine, dance naked in front of the mirror, whatever you need to get you a little warm, and then give that man the whole of you! Teach him how to bring you to climax like only YOU know how to climax and scream outloud how good it feels.
It's a blessing from God to you and your H. Keeping your H from good sex, is keeping him from one of the greatest blessings that God has given a M.
To hell with the OW, that's over and done with. This is your opportunity to show your man that you're better than that OW could ever be. You want to mope around feeling sorry for yourself and witholding your gifts then so be it. Be a slave to your feelings and see how far that gets you.
I suggest it's time you teach your man a lesson, right there under the covers.
God Bless Your Love Making,
COG
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